the-uncensored-she

characterforshow:

What’s with the whole “Nobody gets hurt when you watch porn and masturbate, it’s not hurting anybody” - like sorry, I didn’t realise the women being dehumanised, brutalised, raped and degraded weren’t real people and aren’t really harmed during the making of porn. I guess it also doesn’t have material consequences for non-pornographic women either, like encouraging a culture of sexualised violence and normalisation of brutalisation in the bedroom.

feministforthewin
rosefire:

gaywitch-practisingabortion:

situationalstudent:

purplespacecats:

professorbutterscotch:

kiskolee:

THIS.

I have never thought about it in this context
that’s actually really, really creepy.

I… fuck.

Yeah, basically.

I once pointed this out to my mother and she just stared at me, in stunned silence for ages. 

There will always be a girl who is less sober, less secure, with less friends walking in a darker part of town. I want her safe just as much as I want me safe.

rosefire:

gaywitch-practisingabortion:

situationalstudent:

purplespacecats:

professorbutterscotch:

kiskolee:

THIS.

I have never thought about it in this context

that’s actually really, really creepy.

I… fuck.

Yeah, basically.

I once pointed this out to my mother and she just stared at me, in stunned silence for ages. 

There will always be a girl who is less sober, less secure, with less friends walking in a darker part of town. I want her safe just as much as I want me safe.

justanothertraumablog
Trauma permanently changes us.

This is the big, scary truth about trauma: there is no such thing as “getting over it.” The five stages of grief model marks universal stages in learning to accept loss, but the reality is in fact much bigger: a major life disruption leaves a new normal in its wake. There is no “back to the old me.” You are different now, full stop.

This is not a wholly negative thing. Healing from trauma can also mean finding new strength and joy. The goal of healing is not a papering-over of changes in an effort to preserve or present things as normal. It is to acknowledge and wear your new life — warts, wisdom, and all — with courage.
Catherine Woodiwiss, “A New Normal: Ten Things I’ve Learned About Trauma” (via makojaeger)

this whole “lesbians dating men” thing makes me nervous… bc i was married to a man, as you all know… and now i want to try to see women instead of men. but i don’t want to step on anyone’s toes and i don’t want to label myself anything because i’m scared i might offend someone. the truth is that this dude i happened to marry groomed (this is a sick word but it’s basically what happened) me from the age of 14… so all that time passed and i mean, i’ve always considered myself straight because i was with a man for almost a decade? but then over the last year i feel like i never got a chance to branch out to see other women, etc. i feel like if i went to university single, maybe i would have had a chance there. i feel like my entire life my parents have told me it must be a man. when i told my mom i was getting married she told me “oh thank god you’re not a lesbian.”

i mean i don’t know. i don’t know if this is societal repression but i am not physically attracted to men in the slightest. skinny men gross me out. fat men also kind of gross me out. built men super-gross me out. emotionally? even less attracted to men. i have severe social anxiety though so that could be why. my ex was the only person/man/whoever i ever felt comfortable/trusted and he broke that, hard. i thought he was the antithesis of everything i hated but he turned out to be EXACTLY what i hated. 

women on the other hand? i find them beautiful, attractive, glorious. i find their personalities to be even more beautiful. i find them so fun to be around. so creative and special and i don’t know. my fondest memories are all my female friends from school/college. every one of them i still hold so dear to my heart and miss profoundly.

i don’t know. i am scared. i don’t want to enter into a relationship with a woman for the first time at my age. i don’t want to deal with the societal ramifications, the judging, etc. but i also know i don’t want to go through the motions with another dude… hell no. these are no rebound words. i’ve thought this for a long time but unfortunately i thought he was like family, like blood. 

i’ve fantasized for a long time of just remaining alone so i wouldn’t have to deal with my sexuality. but being alone is lonely sometimes, then again, so has being with a man.

wofexx-on-fire

chocolate-lantern:

some of these White American Male Atheists only reject god because they  believe religion restricts them of their perversions. they like to pretend that they care about Catholic priests raping little boys but then go on to talk about how the Age of Consent should be lowered, gush on about their “Age of Attraction” (AoA—be on the look out for ANYONE who says this,it’s pedospeak that is very common in pedophile chatrooms and messageboards) and how they would have unfettered access to pussy (male sexual entitlement complex) if religion weren’t in the way.  hypocritical White male trash.